“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.” – Alexander Graham Bell

It’s rare that something is as bad as we first think it is. A great way of realizing this is to try looking at negative events through a positive lens. Here are ways to put a positive lens on some common negative events:

Failure: What can you learn from this that will let you do it better next time? Sure, it didn’t work this time, but now you know what doesn’t work, you should have a better idea of what does work.

Loss: Is it really lost, or just misplaced? If there’s a chance you can get it back then it isn’t lost. If it is really lost, what is it at the core of the thing you lost? Often it still exists in other areas of your life. Focus on them.

Fear: Fear was a useful thing when there was a chance of being eaten while looking for dinner. Nowadays it’s often irrational. Stop and think.  What is it that you’re scared will happen as a result of the action you’re considering? Are the rewards worth the possible costs? What is the cost of inaction? By putting some rational thought into your fears you’ll often realize that it’s not really that scary.

Worry over the future: Try to realize how little control we have over much of our future. This allows you to focus more on the present, the place where you can influence the future.

I’m interested to hear ways you look at negative events through positive lenses.

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